We all face change at some time, whether it is the death of a loved one, the end of a relationship or redundancy. How we react to change and loss depends upon many different factors. It may be the first time someone close to us has died or perhaps a relationship has ended when we didn't want it to. It takes time to adjust to change and we can experience many different emotions including deep sadness, anger, denial, helplessness and guilt, before hopefully moving on to acceptance of the situation. However, on occasions we can get 'stuck' in one emotional state; finding it impossible to move on. It is at this point that you may need some help to work through your feelings and make some sense of what has happened.
From time to time we all experience difficulties in our relationships, whether it is with partners, family, friends or colleagues. If problems are ignored and not addressed, the relationship may break down irreparably. Knowing how to resolve any problems can be difficult, as the issues are often complex and made more so by our emotional reaction. Lack of communication, being unable to express feelings, being 'stuck' in unhelpful patterns of behaviour or feeling insecure can be major issues within relationships.
Acknowledging that there are difficulties within your relationship is very hard, but agreeing to seek help to try to resolve the issues shows that you care about the relationship and want to do something about it. Attending counselling with you partner can be even more daunting than starting individual therapy, however it offers the opportunity to explore the issues in a safe, impartial and non-judgemental environment. It is important that both parties are able to have equal time and space to talk about the issues from their own perspective but also have the chance to gain an understanding of their partners views.
Counselling and therapy provides a regular time and space for children and young people to talk about their troubles and explore difficult feelings in an environment that is dependable, free from intrusion and confidential. Having someone who is independent from what is happening in your life can give you the space to express exactly how you feel, without the fear of being judged.
You may come to counselling because of difficult experiences you’ve been going through, such as family relationships, stress leading up to exams, illness or a bereavement. Or you may want help dealing with feelings of sadness, loss of confidence, anxiety or low self-worth that don’t seem to be connected to any particular event. Therapy can help you make sense of your feelings and behaviour.
Childhood at any age is a time of change and new experiences can sometimes cause worry, fears or shyness. Adolescence is a stage that involves the transition from childhood to adulthood, in which considerable physical and mental changes take place. It usually occurs between the ages of 10 and 19 years. As a result of the physical changes of puberty, teenagers can feel over-sensitive and lack self-confidence as they come to terms with the changes they are going through. Mood swings and shyness are some of the most common features associated with adolescence. It is a period of vulnerability which requires support and understanding. Teenagers often find their independence by making friends and widening their social circle. As they begin to carve out an identity, they become more susceptible to friends’ influences. In general this is a healthy process that enables the teenager to find a niche outside of the family environment. But occasionally peer pressure may lead to situations that need parental or professional guidance.
Self-harm (self-injury) describes a wide range of things people deliberately do to themselves that appear to be harmful but usually do not kill them.
An adult or young person may self-harm to:
There are many myths surrounding self harming;
We can help with gaining new perspectives on the issues you face and, where necessary, uncovering and exploring the causes. We can help you to rediscover self belief and increase confidence in your ability to manage change positively; learning more beneficial coping strategies.